Back to School with Scoliosis: How to Handle Braces, Stares, and Self-Doubt

Back to school season always comes with its share of nerves—new teachers, new classes, maybe even new lunchroom drama (who really stole that last pudding cup?). But if you’re heading back with a scoliosis brace, those nerves can feel a little louder.

As a psychotherapist who specializes in scoliosis and mental health, I’ve worked with so many kids and teens who carry not just books in their backpacks, but also the weight of worry: What will my friends think? What if people stare? What if I can’t do the things I used to?

Let’s talk about it—because the truth is, you don’t have to let your back hold you back.

Worry #1: “What will my friends think?”

It’s natural to wonder if friends will see you differently. The reality? Most of the time, they’re curious, not judgmental. Kids might not know much about scoliosis braces (hey, it’s not exactly covered in math class).

Tip: Keep it simple. Practice one sentence you’re comfortable with:
👉 “This is my scoliosis brace. It helps my spine grow straighter and stronger.”

That’s it. You don’t owe anyone a medical lecture or your whole health history.

The harsh truth: If they are really your friends they will support you, if they make fun of you then maybe it’s time for some new friends.

Worry #2: When people stare

Yes, sometimes people will stare. Braces are visible, they make sounds, and they change your outline under clothes. That’s okay. People stare at new sneakers, funky haircuts, and even someone who brings sushi in their lunchbox.

Tip: Try to meet stares with confidence—or humour.
👉 “Yep, this is my brace. Pretty cool, right? “Think of it as my built-in armor.”

👉 “This is my scoliosis brace. It is sort of like braces for teeth, dental braces help your teeth grow straight. My brace helps my spine grow straight”

When you own it, you take the awkwardness out of the room.

Worry #3: The “I Can’t” List

Many kids I work with start keeping an invisible list in their heads of things they can’t do: I can’t join gym, I can’t carry my backpack, I can’t sit with friends comfortably… The list grows longer and heavier until it feels like you’re being held back more by fear than by the brace itself.

Truth bomb: You are capable. A brace may change how you do things, but it doesn’t erase your abilities.

Tip: Flip the script. Instead of “I can’t,” try:
👉 “I can… but maybe in a different way.”
👉 “I can… and my brace is proof of my strength.”

Worry #4: “Is it okay to take a break from my brace?”

Here’s the deal: wearing a scoliosis brace is important, but so are you. Your comfort, your energy, and your mental health matter too. Most kids wonder if they’re allowed to take it off sometimes, and the answer is usually yes (depending on what your doctor or orthotist recommends).

Tip: Think of brace breaks like charging your phone battery. You can’t run forever without recharging. Whether it’s taking it off for gym class, stretching after school, or just having a few minutes to breathe, little breaks can help you feel refreshed and ready to keep going.

👉 Parents — encourage your child to build in brace-free moments that are planned, not sneaky. That way, they don’t feel guilty for needing a break, and they also learn balance between sticking to treatment and taking care of themselves.

👉 Kids — remember, a break isn’t failure. It’s fuel. When you take care of yourself, you’re actually more likely to stick with your brace long-term.

Talking to Teachers and Classmates

Parents—this part’s for you too. Encourage your child to let teachers know about their brace. Sometimes a small accommodation (like extra time to get to class, or permission to stand/stretch) makes a huge difference. I remember sitting on a Swiss exercise ball in Grade 7 instead of a regular chair.

Classmates can also become allies once they understand. A five-minute conversation can turn stares into support.

Final Thought: Don’t Hold Yourself Back Because of Your Back

You are more than your brace. More than your spine. You’re a friend, a student, an athlete, a dreamer, a whole person. School is a chance to explore who you are beyond scoliosis.

Need More Support?

If you or your child is struggling with the emotional side of scoliosis, you don’t have to go through it alone. At STC Therapy, I specialize in supporting kids, teens, and families navigating the ups and downs of scoliosis.

💬 Book a free consultation today to learn how I can help your child feel confident, capable, and supported—both in and out of the classroom.